Tank tops

Hello all. I’m sorry I haven’t been posting much, I’ve been pretty busy. But please feel free to send asks; I really want to encourage discussion.

Despite school starting for many, the weather is proof that it is still summertime. Summertime means hot weather, and means a uniform of shorts and tanks for most girls. 

For the past couple of months I’ve been sticking to this uniform as well. I was comfortable enough with the people that I was around that I wore camisoles, tank and tube tops with barely a second thought. Okay, that’s a lie. There were definitely some second thoughts and anxiety, but I forced myself to ignore them and put on the shirt.

Tomorrow, I’m going to have to start spending time with classmates that I am a lot less comfortable around. And earlier, as I was staring frustratingly into my closet, I realized that I own a lot of tank tops but not too many T shirts. This puts me in a dilemma: either be sweaty and hot all day, but not have anxiety, or be fairly comfortable temperature wise but be self conscious.

I’ve taken a pledge to endure the latter, at least for tomorrow. The couple of inches of my back that will be visible should not determine a person’s opinion of me. If they do, I don’t care about their opinion in the first place. I am more than the hair.

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Anonymous said: I heard when waxing and if the hair is long enough, if you pull the strip the opposite way it helps damage the follicle to where hair doesn't grow or grows thinner.. Have you heard anything like this?

I have heard about this. I don’t think it works on the first time, but if you continually wax and pull against the growth of the hair, it should grow back less and less. This did work pretty well with my upper lip, which now looks sooo much better than it did a couple years ago.

Anonymous said: How do you deal with mean comments form people?

By ignoring them. There are a lot of awful people in this world, but you just have to remember that there are also so many beautiful, kind people in it as well. Fuck the haters :)

Anonymous said: Do you have any tips for embracing hirsutism?

I’ll admit it, I’m not very good at this. I think it would be better to direct you towards http://fuck-shaving.tumblr.com/, because I think they will be able to give you great advice and motivation!

Anonymous said: Do you think it's possible for hirsute girls to be considered attractive? I don't feel like i owe beauty to anyone but no matter how much I try it still hurts to think of no one ever loving me or finding me attractive

Yes. I think it’s entirely possible. Every person has aspects of them that are just positively gorgeous. Hirsute women face the difficulty of being told that they are not conventionally attractive, but I just don’t believe it. Conventions change, and so many people will love you. 

Anonymous said: I really love to swim but getting rid of all the hair is such a hassle and even when I do spend hours and get rid of it, you can still see all the hair follicles and I feel disgusting. Any tips? ps: Love you!

Competitive/lane swimming or going to the beach type swimming? For the former, my suggestion would be to only remove all the hair when it gets really bad. If you’re swimming in a lane, no one’s going to be watching your hair, instead they’ll just be watching you swim! 

The latter is more difficult. Tankinis are your friend. There are some really cute ones out there that don’t make you look like a child. If there’s hair in a particular area that’s bothersome, cover that area up with shorts or a t shirt or something. 

If you want a more specific answer, feel free to ask.

P.S. Love you too! :)

Anonymous said: Your 'About Me' could literally be mine. Everything in it relates to me EXACTLY. Except, I'm Caucasian and we have different names. But that's besides the point. That being said, are you comfortable at all being close or intimate with other people? Or is the hair issue that bothersome? Because it is for me.

The hair issue is definitely bothersome. It’s impacted my wardrobe, self esteem, and basically just the way I live my life. I’ve learned to deal with it, but it’s still something that I struggle with. Emotionally intimate? No. I don’t know if that’s because of the hair or other issues, but I’m definitely a distant person and it’s made having close relationships difficult. Physically intimate? Not a huge problem for me, as long as I have shaved/nair-ed/whatever.

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Thanks! I just followed you and I’d encourage all followers to do the same.

Anonymous said: Regarding the dorm situation, I feel like telling them is the best. Sometimes it ends bad but it's better than them walking in on you, right? I just don't like I when they go and tell other people

True. That’s a very good point. I think when we become closer friends I may tell her.